A: R.S.V.P 101 states, “if your name is not addressed, then the answer is NOT yes.”
I understand how difficult it is to attend an event solo, especially if you honestly need the person to attend with you. However, any former bride can tell you one + one + one = expensive. Every person that is added to the list means: an extra meal (which can be $50person), an extra favor (which can be $2-5 per person), extra programs, place cards, chair covers, cake and so on. One extra person’s total cost could be between $20 to $100+.
Every bride struggles with who makes it on the infamous “LIST” and there are some people that simply couldn’t be invited. If you are unable to find transportation to the wedding and reception, consider just attending the ceremony and send your gift via mail. There should be no hard feelings—it’s etiquette.
Q: I’m in a wedding this summer and we are starting to plan the bridal shower. Can we ask the wedding planner to help us with the shower?
A: Short answer — no. Long answer — yes, if you’re willing to pay for it.
Unless the planner has agreed in advance to plan or help with all activities pertaining to the wedding (i.e. engagement, bridal shower, bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner, wedding brunch), which would either be very expensive, then it’s highly unlikely that the planner would agree to any extra events for free. Every event no matter how big or small takes time to plan and orchestrate. The group should approach the planner as though this is a separate event and be prepared to pay accordingly unless the planner states otherwise.
If you are planning an event and have no idea where to start, send an email to Celebrations@timesdispatch.com, subject: Taya’s Take